JL;DR SUMMARY In "The Blessings of a B Minus," psychologist Wendy Mogel advises parents to delay conversations about college with their teens until 11th grade and focus on building trust in God (bitachon) and self-reliance instead of solely on academic achievements. A way out west there was a fella, fella I want to tell you about, fella by the name of Jeff Lebowski. At least, that was the handle his lovin' parents gave him, but he never had much use for it himself. This Lebowski, he called himself the Dude. Now, Dude, that's a name no one would self-apply where I come from. But then, there was a lot about the Dude that didn't make a whole lot of sense to me. And a lot about where he lived, likewise. But then again, maybe that's why I found the place s'durned innarestin'.