JL;DR SUMMARY Claire E. Sufrin reflects on the personal and collective grief experienced due to the tragedy of losing young lives to terrorism, drawing from her own family history and her marriage to Michael, whose previous fiancée, Marla Bennett, was killed in a 2002 bombing. A way out west there was a fella, fella I want to tell you about, fella by the name of Jeff Lebowski. At least, that was the handle his lovin' parents gave him, but he never had much use for it himself. This Lebowski, he called himself the Dude. Now, Dude, that's a name no one would self-apply where I come from. But then, there was a lot about the Dude that didn't make a whole lot of sense to me. And a lot about where he lived, likewise. But then again, maybe that's why I found the place s'durned innarestin'.